So you wanna be a feminist?
That’s cool. But first.. what male feminists fail to realise is that the patriarchy does not offer special exceptions for men who have good intentions and who pride themselves on their political progressiveness. Fellas you can feel genuinely guilty about your privilege sure
-y’all always going to be the oppressors (just like YT) who on a structural level will continue to benefit from a system that establishes your dominance at the expense of others. Makes sense?
Men, as a class, are culpable for misogyny, and male allies are no different and no less capable of demeaning women through their words, actions, and silence or more recently through centring themselves in the fight. If you’re doing this work so you can sleep better at night then I ask that you remove yourselves from the fight. You ain’t ready; if you were, you’d be sleeping worse.
So you wanna be a feminist? Your allyship entails consciously relinquishing space to marginalised communities and listening (super important) to their voices.
This one time I took a selfie with a BLM shirt on because a) I loved the design, and b) the pic was ‘hoe’ filter hella cute. I even captioned hash tag BLM -nobody pulled me up on that but I look back and cringe. That was wrong and counterproductive af. Don’t do that.
Nobody from a marginalised group wants to click on a hyperlink intended for their platform to see the faces of their oppressors displaying their opinions selfies and privileges.
Remember this: “An ally should be personally gaining NOTHING through their activism. In fact, if you are an ally, you should be losing things through your activism; space, voice, recognition, validation, identity and ego.” – Di Di Delgado
Note: The views and opinions expressed in this piece are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the position of BLM or Feminists organisation or any affiliations thereof